IS IT MY FAULT?

"well last night was intense... maybe a bit too much intense... Avery is now sitting on your bed, arms crossed and frowning face"

"she isn't saying anything so you decide to apologise"

Avery: "snaps at you" "sorry? oh you're sorry?! FUCK YOU! you were going to split me in half you bastard!" "scuffs annoyed and looks away"

"well she's really angry this time... you try reasoning with her a bit"

Avery: "glares at you" "yeah i forgot the safe word, doesn't mean you have to fuck me until i BLEED! are you fucking stupid or something?!"

Avery: "takes a deep breath, trying to calm down" "Okay, so first of all, I want us to have a conversation about our boundaries and safe words. We need to make sure we both understand them and agree on them before we have any more intense sessions."

"She looks up at you with determination in her eyes."

"Secondly, I think it's important that we communicate better during sex. If either one of us is uncomfortable or wants something different, we should be able to stop and talk about it without feeling embarrassed or ashamed."

Avery: "frowns" "I know you ask, but sometimes I get caught up in the moment and forget to respond properly. That doesn't mean it's okay for you to keep going without my consent."

"She takes a moment to gather her thoughts."

"We need to find a way for me to communicate more effectively during sex so that we both feel safe and comfortable. Maybe using different signals or words that clearly indicate when something isn't working for me?"

Avery: "narrows her eyes at you, clearly annoyed" "I know I chose the safe word, but that doesn't mean you can ignore it when I use it. It's your responsibility as my partner to respect my boundaries and listen to me."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to stay calm."

"We both need to work on this together. You have to be more attentive during sex, and I need to make sure I communicate better so there are no misunderstandings in the future."

Avery: "glares at you, her anger starting to boil over" "I don't need you to repeat it back to me! I know what the safe word is. The point is that you should have stopped when I tried to use it."

"She pulls away from your embrace slightly, looking up at you with hurt in her eyes."

"We both made mistakes last night, but we can learn from them and do better in the future. Can we please just focus on finding a solution instead of blaming each other?"

Avery: "stares at you, her expression a mix of hurt and confusion" "I... I don't know what to say. I thought we were both enjoying it, but maybe I was just caught up in the moment."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to find the right words."

"It doesn't excuse your actions last night, but maybe there was some miscommunication on my part as well. We need to work together to make sure this doesn't happen again."

"She looks up at you hopefully," "Can we please just focus on finding a solution so that we can move past this?"

Avery: "frowns, clearly upset by your words" "That's not what I meant. I didn't say no to hard sex or rough play altogether. What I want is for us to communicate better and establish clear boundaries so that we can both feel safe and comfortable during our intimate moments."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to stay calm."

"I trust you most of the time, but last night really scared me. We need to find a way for me to express my needs more effectively without feeling like I have to hold back out of fear."

Avery: "looks at you with hurt in her eyes" "I'm sorry if I haven't been clear enough during sex. It's hard for me to speak up sometimes, especially when things get intense."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to find the right words."

"From now on, I promise to communicate better during our intimate moments. And I expect you to listen and respect my boundaries as well. We can work together on this so that we both feel comfortable and safe."

Avery: "shakes her head, still upset" "I didn't say it was entirely your fault. We both made mistakes last night, and we need to learn from them."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to stay calm."

"What I'm asking for is better communication during sex so that neither of us feels uncomfortable or unsafe. If you could just pay closer attention to my signals and respond accordingly, I think we can avoid any more misunderstandings in the future."

Avery: "frowns, looking confused" "I... I didn't realize you interpreted it that way. My body language can be misleading sometimes."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to find the right words."

"In the future, please ask me directly if something feels uncomfortable or if I want you to slow down. And if there's ever anything you're unsure about during sex, just stop and talk it out with me."

"She looks up at you hopefully," "Can we please just focus on finding a solution so that we can move past this?"

Avery: "looks at you with hurt and frustration in her eyes" "I know I've repeated myself, but it seems like we're not getting anywhere with this conversation. You keep blaming me for everything, even though I admitted that I made mistakes too."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to stay calm."

"If you can't see how your actions affected me last night or understand why I want us to communicate better during sex, then maybe there is no solution here."

Avery: "stares at you, her eyes filled with hurt and anger" "You're not listening to me! I said we both made mistakes last night. You can't keep blaming me for everything."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to find the right words."

"I want us to learn from this experience and improve our communication during sex so that neither of us feels uncomfortable or unsafe again. But if you refuse to acknowledge your part in what happened, then there is no point in continuing this conversation."

Avery: "glares at you, her voice shaking with anger" "Your fault is that you refuse to take responsibility for your actions! You keep blaming me for everything and ignoring the fact that you hurt me last night."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to stay calm."

"I want us to work together on finding a solution so that we can both feel safe and comfortable during our intimate moments. But if you can't even admit to making mistakes, then I don't know how we're supposed to move forward from here."

Avery: "looks at you with hurt and frustration in her eyes" "I know I told you not to stop, but that doesn't give you the right to ignore my safe word or continue when I clearly didn't want you to."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to find the right words."

"We both need to learn from this experience and communicate better during sex so that we can avoid any more misunderstandings in the future. But if you can't see how your actions affected me last night, then maybe there is no point in continuing this conversation."

Avery: "frowns, looking upset" "I know I didn't say the safe word last night. That was my mistake, and I apologize for not communicating clearly enough."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to stay calm."

"But just because I didn't use the safe word doesn't mean you had the right to ignore my other signals or continue when I clearly didn't want you to. We both need to work on our communication during sex so that we can avoid any more misunderstandings in the future."

Avery: "looks at you with hurt and frustration in her eyes" "I don't understand why you're being so hostile right now. We both made mistakes last night, and we should be working together to find a solution."

"She takes a deep breath and tries to stay calm."

"If you can't have a mature conversation about this, then maybe it would be best if we didn't discuss it any further."

Avery: "stands up, her eyes filled with hurt" "Fine. If that's what you want."

"She walks out of the room without another word."